Introducing Adam Cumberland of BMG Connections, the leading European Authority on communication and social interaction……

When planning on first dates, most guys plan on typical dates like going out on to dinner, a movie or drinks at a bar.  These are the last things you should be doing.  The point is, when taking a woman on a first date, most men should try to not be like most guys, because most guys don’t have success like they should be enjoying. They must be that one guy that stands out among the rest.  Some men unconsciously feel that the cuter the women (in their eyes), the more expensive the date should be.  There is no reason why the average guy in the street can’t be dating A Lister celebrities, in fact one of my clients went on a date last week with one that he met in a gym in North London.

So where to go for the date?  Coffee dates are great.  You are probably thinking this is a bad idea but its counter intuitive.  Gentleman, on first dates, the more money you spend, the less attractive you become.  It’s the truth.  Limit yourself to £30…even if your loaded.

A guy should always act natural on their first date. Don’t pretend to be someone that you are not.  Men shouldn’t brag about their salary, job or position in life as it subcommunicates ‘approval seeking’ which is one of the most biggest attraction killers.

Keep the conversation away from debates about religion or politics. Many a good man will often fall into the trap of talking in logic as men for the most part are very logical.  Women are emotional creatures so therefore you want to convey stories and conversation which create an emotional impact. This is an art and a science in itself.  If a women tells me “Im going to the park” I wouldnt respond with “Have a good time”  what is that? Boring at best.  Instead have fun with it and say something that is emotionally charged like “Try not to scare all the kids”.

Guys must stand out among other men and remember the things that make them unique and an interesting person. Right now, you might be thinking how you can make yourself sound cool.  This kind of thinking will not serve you.  Instead, realise that we are all unique and therefore different.  I want you to bring your own life experiences to the table and share of them.

Share fun and exciting things you are doing now in your life.  If you’re not doing any fun things, share about what you want to be doing so the women can get a sense of your character and where you are going in life.  Hopefully you’re not sitting in front of a Sony Playstation for the rest of your days..that will certainly kill your chances.

Also, remember the most unforgettable dates are those in which a person feels somebody is ‘genuinely interested’ in getting to know them. Once you discover a unique thing about the women, continue to ask them about that subject. Women will feel comfortable about themselves. Validate her for that unique thing.  If she has a sense of adventure, maybe say “I like your sense of adventure” She will now feel validated for her unique qualities and therefore feel free to express more of herself to you.

To find out how to approach women in any situation including social and non social environments and how to escalate the interaction to a satisfactory close within just a few minutes – then visit me at here where we have seminars and weekend Bootcamps with live interactions…lots of fun.

Kind regards.

Adam Cumberland