When men think of what they look for in a woman, aside from nice bum etc, do they count “funny” as a quality? It’s certainly what attracts women to men but when it’s the other way around, is comedy a turn off?
A short while ago a study was published in the scientific journal Evolution and Human Behaviour that argued that whilst men will laugh at the odd wise crack, when it comes to a long term partner, they just aren’t interested in funny women. We have to get this straight here as there is a marked difference between having a sense of humour and being funny. According to the study, when hundreds of men in their 20’s were asked if they appreciated a sense of humour, the majority of men said yes. When they were asked if they liked women who cracked their own jokes, the answer was a firm no.
A man is apparently more interested in how receptive a woman is to his humour. “Does she think I’m funny?” “Can I make her laugh?”, are the questions asked rather than “Is she funny?”, “Can she make me laugh?”. It’s interesting because this study seems to show that what men find attractive is when a woman plays delighted audience to his one man stand up and she shouldn’t necessarily have any witty repartee of her own. When a man is witty it’s seductive, when a woman is witty it’s seen as threatening.
Dr Martin, a psychologist at the University of Western Ontario, believes that men don’t really enjoy female comedy because “humour is seen as a masculine thing”. I don’t necessarily agree that men don’t like female comedians. I asked my most “masculine” boy friends and they all said they enjoyed comedy from Miranda Hart, Jo Brand and one even went as far as to say that Kristen Wiig in Bridesmaids made the film funnier than uber-man comedy The Hangover. Enjoyable yes, but when it comes to finding them attractive, well…
The study goes on to show that men enjoy witty women for short term relationships and one night stands but this is not the case for long term. This absolutely baffles me. No amount of science or psycho babble will allow me to comprehend this. We can’t account for all men and no one is trying to generalise here but we can’t overlook that the overall feeling is that funny women are not as attractive as the ones who sit nice and quietly and laugh at his jokes. I’m hoping someone can prove all of this wrong. Comedy is a sign of intelligence and if a man is prepared to enjoy this short term, it doesn’t make sense that he wouldn’t want to hold on to it. Barbra Streisand was certainly a trailblazer in Funny Girl, why has this been lost on our generation?