Posts Tagged ‘Online dating’
I think you kind of know what is going to happen here, it’s all in the title. Hope you enjoy it as much as we have: How To Pick Up A Girl At The Gym
We generally don’t post these stories even though there is an abundance of them, as we’re too busy mourning the loss of two members (and we’re always in a bit of a mood about that), but we appreciate that for loved-up member it’s happy days… and nights as well probably.
In ClickTonight’s short history, we have seen our gorgeous blue man marry a beautiful lady from Click, numerous other marriages, ClickTonight babies as well as countless couples strolling off into the sunset in relationship bliss, some even crossing borders to be with their newly found love – but now its the turn of one of our own.
I’ve recently read an article that deserves some recognition. It has had us in stitches and needs to be shared with you. Quite simply a young lady posted a message on a popular forum entitled “What should i do to marry a rich guy?” She is having problems finding a wealthy man to marry. She goes on to list the requirements she wants in her future husband and continues with questions of where to find such a man. It ends brilliantly with a response from a banker at J.P Morgan a leading financial services firm. Anyway we won’t ruin it for you, take a look for yourselves and enjoy:
Here is what the young lady wrote:
Title: “What should I do to marry a rich guy?”
I’m going to be honest of what I’m going to say here. I’m 25 this year. I’m very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above. You might say that I’m greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York.
My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you? Among those I’ve dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit. If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden(?), $250k annual income is not enough.
I’m here humbly to ask a few questions:
1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches are only average-looking? I’ve met a few girls who don’t have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys.
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)
The philosophical reply from a banker at J.P. Morgan:
Dear Ms. Pretty,
I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor. My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I’m not wasting time here.
From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain.
Put the details aside, what you’re trying to do is an exchange of “beauty” and “money” : Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.
However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can’t be prettier year after year.
Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.
By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a “trading position”.
If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term – same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or “leased”.
Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.This has better chance than finding a rich fool.
Hope this reply helps.
J.P. Morgan Banker
Los Angeles has quite the reputation. When people find out it’s where I live they automatically assume I bump into movie stars daily or ask me if I know anyone rich and famous. It’s not all glitz and glamour, though. So why should you care about impressing an L.A girl, anyway? Lately I’ve been hearing from so many people who met their significant other across the pond, in a foreign country or even from just a few cities over. I’ve never believed love should be limited by your postal code, and I’m not starting now. So just in case you should ever fall head over heels for an L.A girl, here are the best ways to sweep her off her feet. Movie stars need not apply, of course.
- Confidence Is Key. Not standard dating advice confidence though, I’m talking major kicking ass, taking names swagger. In L.A, everyone has something going on, somewhere to go, a story to tell. It’s a city full of movers and shakers and if you can’t keep up, you won’t stand a chance. Hell, even if you really can’t keep up, it’s best to fake it until you make it.
- Don’t Get Caught Up. The worst people in L.A are the ones who are hoping to sleep with some famous actor (never gonna happen) or have a one night stand with a model. Actually, I lie-the WORST people in L.A are the ones who are trying too hard to be famous. Not trying to crush anyone’s dream, but if you’re a girl living in L.A the last thing you want to do is date yet ANOTHER “musician” or “struggling actor.”
- Look The Part. I love guys with excellent personal style…I don’t care if he’s wearing a trash bag as long as he’s rocking the hell out of it. You don’t have to be David Beckham gorgeous at all-it’s about working with what you’ve got.
- Healthy Is Hot, But So Is Whiskey. In L.A, we’re all about health and holistic mumbo jumbo. Everyone is so concerned with their “healthy lifestyle.” What a snooze-fest. I do yoga, work-out and juice my vegetables and all that stuff…but with that said, I like a man who is a MAN. Who isn’t afraid to do shots of whiskey and eat french fries at 2am and throw his diet to hell. No girl likes a man on a “diet”, trust me!
- Take Me Out Of This City. L.A can feel like one big concrete jungle and sometimes I feel trapped by the smog and the traffic and all of the people. The best way to impress a girl from Los Angeles is to take her out of the damn city. The mountains, a quiet beach, or well…what about the UK? Now that’s impressive.
We Love Dates is a popular online dating blog written by Liz, an L.A girl who left her heart in London. Come say hi!
“Where else can you go in a matter of 20 minutes, look at 200 women who are single and want to go on dates?” This was a comment made by a single man in a recent report which examined over 400 academic studies and was published this week in the Psychological Science Journal. The report looks at the benefits of being exposed to a huge dating pool of potential dates and partners and the disadvantages of being overwhelmed by choice.
A hectic professional schedule and a busy social life can mean that there is so little time to meet new people. If you want to extend your reach beyond the my friend who works with scenario, it can be quite hard without the help of meddlesome matchmaking friends and parents. Let’s face it, it’s tough. “Online dating is good. I’m very, very glad it exists. It gives opportunities to singles who otherwise wouldn’t have them,” said Eli J. Finkel, an associate professor of social psychology at Northwestern University and the study’s lead author. Online Dating is now the second most common way of starting a relationship – second only to meeting through mutual friends.
It’s funny how far dating in the digital era has come. When online dating was a new concept back in 1995 it was seen as dominated by desperate dans and weirdos, which in turn cast a stigma over the process of meeting someone online. Now that’s all changed, an ideal solution for workaholics and busy singles alike, the report found that in one month last year 25 million people were using online dating sites to meet new people. On the flip side, the report also focused on the time consuming problem of going from profile to profile and this can “can result in the objectification of potential partners.” Surely this same thing happens when you’re scanning potential talent in a bar on a Thursday night?? It’s not online dating that encourages this attitude, it’s already there! We first decide whether or not someone looks “attractive” and then we make the decision on whether to approach them or not. Finkel and his team compared online dating to shopping at ’supermarkets of love’. Well, every little bit helps!
Everyone has “adult” friends. You know the ones, 1 x long-term relationship, 1-2 mortgages, 2 x cars, 1 x very large engagement ring, probably 1 x ISA (I still don’t really know what one of these is!). We all launched ourselves upon the world at the same time and whilst some of our friends will morph from 25 to 45 literally overnight, others will stay renting and dating. Not renting dates…renting apartments and dating. Or as I like to term it, living! Though because I fall into the “Others” category, I am slightly biased.
As soon as one of your friends becomes an “adult”, socialising with them suddenly takes on a new dynamic. Instead of gossiping about latest beaus, great dates and the comedy bad ones, you find yourself drawn into conversations about wedding dresses, the disastrous state of the property markets (“You really should think about getting on that ladder”, one cautiously advises me), and sensible cars. Unfortunately I know nothing about wedding dresses, preferring Rodarte to Rowley and my idea of a sensible car is a pre-booked taxi.
I’m not saying it’s impossible to be happy for your adult friend’s radically normal lifestyle, but the real challenge is spending time with them and not questioning your own. Every time I meet up with one of these friends, I go into a calculated frenzy which follows these steps 1. Find suitable life partner. 2. Spend hours on Findaproperty.com searching for dream house that is near good schools. 3. Look into wedding receptions at that amazing Scottish castle I was just recommended. Waking from this temporary bout of insanity is like waking from a bad dream. Awful because it’s a reality so far removed from my own. I return back to my work week peppered with lunches, cocktails, at least one out of control night and a weekend brunch. I’m still asking myself, why does my adult friend have it all and I have nothing to comfort me on a Sunday morning but a Bloody Mary?!
Bizarrely, over drinks with a newly engaged “adult” (she has been playing with her hair and wrapping her hand around a champagne glass so to give me as many glimpses of her ring as possible), she very tipsily tells me that she is secretly jealous. Unbelievable. Jealous of what I ask. She tells me how she would love to go out for drinks randomly mid week and arrange dates for a Saturday night. She also liked the idea of being able to change your apartment every 6 months. Sayings are awfully cliche, but never has the one about the grass always being greener, been so true!
The sun is out and I think that means we should go hunt down a fabulous beer garden. Need ideas? This should help…
It might have escaped your attention that the world is going fashion crazy. This happens twice a year when the fashion capitals of the world play host to the world’s stylish elite and the items they will be coveting in 7 months time. It all sounds a bit mad when it rolls out of it’s usual home on the pages of Vogue and splashes the headlines of general news. How could we ignore it?
Actually I can’t ignore it. I have dealings in the fashion world so the Fashion Weeks inevitably take hold of my life and grasp me in their fur-lined, leather trim grips until they have all passed me by, leaving me in peace for another 6 months. Finding time to schedule a date is near impossible as every minute of your time is accounted for. Have you ever seen Anna Wintour hand in hand with a man whilst she sits front row? Absolutely not. In this world the main focuses are status, style and of course the catwalk. There is no room for romance here.
That said, you couldn’t help but think of love, passion and flirtation when models came down the catwalks to the soundtracks of “You’ve got the Love” (PPQ). “I Put A Spell On You” (Burberry) and “Friday I’m In Love”. Most of the time you’re sitting with a colleague, a fellow fashion mate or alone. Despite all of the theatre of a fashion show (designer X has decided to focus on the romantic liaison of historical lovers Y and Z or more common, “the starting point for this collection came from the unrequited love of Rockstar A and Muse B”), you’re supposed to sit there maintaining a cool, collected gaze apparently devoid of all emotion and of course, dateless. Two worlds existing in one room.
Thinking on this there are parallels to be drawn between fashion and dating. The drama and emotion you feel internally when processing feelings for someone whilst you’re trying to maintain a calm and measured outward presence. Simply put, playing it cool. Like the fashionistas on front row with their steely glances and intimidating presence, you’re faking it. I do it too. When I saw a beautiful white feather gown sweep the floor at the Royal Courts of Justice to the soundtrack of Swan Lake, did I jump up and shout “I love you”, “I want you”, “I need you in my life”?? No of course I didn’t. I watched it go up the catwalk and back down again, and then turned my head to the next dress. You would never have known how I truly felt.
Want to go on a date this week? Good, me too. Let’s make some plans!
Men are usually more suspect to cheat on their partners on the assumption that for men, sex is a purely a physical act. However women craving the security from a relationship feel that sex is the thing that strengthens their connection to their partner. If women are happy and feel secure they don’t cheat whereas men will cheat either way. Traditional and perhaps outdated views, they do feel somewhat out of touch.
In fact the tides may well be changing and not because more women feel unhappy or unfulfilled in their relationships, but because on the whole they are becoming more affluent and successful in their careers. Apparently this brings out the animalistic male inside and as a result, they are hungry to hunt their prey as they are hungry to dominate the boardrooms.
AskMen UK found a recent poll that studied 2000 people and whilst 15% of men had been two timing their partners, 20% of women had been involved with another man. The lustful 20% tended to be the more successful professionally than the more faithful women who they were tested against. Desperate housewives they certainly aren’t, loyal wives and girlfriends they are. Those late nights in the office, those cocktails after work seem to be the more dangerous territories for adultery than the classic scenes of porn movies. You know, wife waiting at home for the plumber to come fix her pipes…
AskMen put it down to womens’ tendency to be indecisive over mens’ quest for “lust and entitlement”. I think they’re missing the point here. It lies in womens’ quest to “have it all” – the career, the husband and perfect home and not forgetting, the dangerous liason. This is nothing new though, women as cheaters have been catching up to their make counterparts since the 60’s and now it seems they’ve surpassed them. Women beware though, apparently men are better judges of knowing when they are being cheated on.
To complicate matters further, what constitutes as cheating is no longer as finite as it used to be. For me, anything from physical contact is cheating but once you’ve initiated a situation in which this physical contact might happen, you have to ask yourself what you were thinking in the first place. When you arranged to meet your ex, grab a drink with an old lover, deep down you knew what you were seeking out. For some, cheating is relative to the type of relationship they have. Open relationships are more popular than ever. Threesomes aren’t even that taboo anymore. My advice would be to make sure you know exactly what you’re getting into from the start and that you both understand what your relationship means and the rules that are sacred to maintaining trust.
Bank holiday has been and gone but we aren’t retiring from Summer just yet. We are busy making plans for the weekend…you should be too!