We’ve got such an exciting post lined up for you! We interviewed the famed blogger from The Single Filez about her life and experiences as a single girl in London. Here it is – her gossip, her tips and her stories. Enjoy!
What made you want to start blogging about your dating experiences?
I’d had a stream of really bad luck in the love life department, so I gave up on trying to find someone special and dedicated myself to living a happy single life. However, through a work-related project I had the opportunity to appear in a magazine article which involved speaking to a dating expert and a life coach. The advice I received was helpful, but one thing that stuck in my mind was that I shouldn’t give up. I had to keep trying. I was reminded that when looking for a job, you don’t give up after the first rejection – you keep scouring job ads, you keep applying, you keep going for interviews and you stick at it – that was how I needed to approach dating. I was told that I should take the seriousness out of it and make it more fun. It was suggested that I should write a diary or a blog. Nearly two years later, I’m still single, but loving blogging!
"Being single allows us to be selfish. Being single allows us to do the things they way we want to, how we want to and when we want to."
What are your favourite things about dating?
Now, this is a hard question because being a dating blogger can make you a bit cynical. Sometimes I’ve had to date when I didn’t really feel like dating, mostly because I worried about needing blog content. For the sake of my sanity, I recently took a break and removed myself from the dating merry-go-round for a few months but if I think back to what I love about dating, it would be the feeling of hope and excitement. Every time before you meet someone new, you can’t help but hope that it’s going to be someone special. You can’t help but feel excited about what could potentially happen.
We want to know more about the single life in London, tell us about your weekend habits?
My weekends are extremely varied. They can consist of everything from going to the gym and doing my grocery shopping, to travelling across London to meet friends for dinner and a movie, to jetting off to Madrid on a cheap EasyJet flight. That’s the great thing about being single – the world (or London) is your oyster!
What was the best date you’ve ever been on?
Not to boast, but one of my favorite dates ever was organised by me (ok, maybe I’m boasting just a little!). It was slap bang in the middle of summer and we met at St Katharine Docks which is a picturesque marina with restaurants, shops and a good food market, right next Tower Bridge. It’s beautiful and doesn’t even feel like you’re in London! We then walked across Tower Bridge, taking in the scenery. The rest of the date was spent doing a pub crawl along the river. We stopped at a few pubs along the way (Horniman at Hays, The Anchor Bankside and Studio Six at Gabriels Wharf) plenty of laughter and chatter was had. We finished up near Waterloo where we had dinner at a Las Iguanas – Royal Festival Hall, overlooking the River Thames. The date ended with us sharing a kiss whilst taking in the night-time views of London – it was dreamy!
We love to laugh at our bad dates. What about your worst?
Oh wow, not sure where to start, I’ve had so many. There was the time I was taken to a kebab shop to share a bag of chips for dinner, the time the guy was a bit too keen and took one of my rings and tried to put it on my wedding ring finger, or the time the guy was so embarrassed about something stupid he said, that halfway through the date he did a runner and left me in the bar all on my lonesome – take your pick!
What are your views on online dating vs. offline dating?
I have a love/hate relationship with online dating. I wish it wasn’t so necessary because I do miss the days of meeting people in ‘regular’ situations but realistically, in this day and age, it doesn’t happen like it used to. Online dating is a great way to widen your net and to meet people you wouldn’t normally get the chance to meet. It doesn’t have the stigma attached to it like it used to. Everyone used to think only crazy people were sad enough to look for dates online, nowadays regular, attractive, hard-working professionals like you and I log onto dating sites every single day. I’ve even heard many stories of couples who have met online getting married or moving in together.
Any good dating tips you’d like to share with our Click members?
Ha! I’m far from being a dating expert, so not best placed to give out dating tips but one thing I would say when it comes to online dating is to always let someone know where you are. I always tell a friend who I’m going out with and where we’re going. I give them as much info about my date as possible. Usually there’s no need but I do believe it’s better to be safe than sorry.
What would your advice be to a new single and fabulous?
My advice would be to enjoy it. Being single allows us to be selfish. Being single allows us to do the things they way we want to, how we want to and when we want to. Enjoy that as much as possible while you can and also know that it won’t last forever.
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