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The Euros are still underway but the interest from English lads has sharply dropped after Sunday’s shocker against Italy. If you’re a lady, you’re probably pretty pleased that the focus can switch back from football to much more important matters. But instead of dreading the arrival of each sporting event, why not celebrate it and remember that televised sport means a high concentration of men packed into a small place. So with Wimbledon 2012 now underway and the Olympics next in queue, why not become a spectator of spectators? But which sports to watch?
Rugby is a winner for me. The men are generally polite and often a little bit posh – you won’t get elbowed out the way at the bar. The atmosphere is buzzing but not too rowdy and with rugby, there are lots of breaks in play (for scrums and stuff), which means you can get attention during the game from the supporters that take your fancy.
When it comes to football there are plenty of hotties amongst England’s finest players, but does this extend to the fans? The quality of men, likelihood of hooliganism and level of drunkenness is team dependent – I’m told Fulham fans are a jolly nice bunch and perhaps Millwall fans are a crowd to avoid. A drink fuelled afternoon is guaranteed.
Cricket ranks low… unless you’re looking for a sugar daddy. Whether at a match or at a bar, the spectators generally fit in the upper age bracket and are sparser. There has been an improvement over recent years, with more 20/20 matches and clubs livening up matches to pull in the younger crowds, but there is a little way to go yet.
Horse racing is a winner. Pick a high profile race meet and you’ll find big groups of guys, generally well preened and lively. And of course ladies, aside from the men, there are the additional benefits of getting dressed up, drinking champagne and Pimms from noon and spending a day in the sunshine (we hope…) with your girlfriends. The racecourses often do a great job of creating a party atmosphere with special entertainment so when the racing is over, there’s plenty of time to meet and mingle!
So where to watch your sport of choice? This is easy; you don’t need to venture to a fancy sports bar, your local pub (providing it has a screen) is as good a place as any, it’s timing that’s key. Make sure you stick around when the match, game or event ends, as that’s when the men’s attention switches from sport back to normal life. And at that point, there are generally many many guys and very very few girls. Whether or not you’re into your sports betting, the odds are in your favour post match.
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Remember when we had a parley about second date territory? We have covered interviews on the first date and tactical moves on the second but Lloyd, one of our readers, has requested that we now tackle the jabberwocky that is the third date. The third date always presents the tricky dilemma of “The Third Date Rule” and as a consequence is fraught with expectation. You aced the first date, charmed your way through the second and the third date will make or break you.
Before we continue I’d like to point out that you should not feel obligated to have sex on the third date and it’s crucial to handle the situation carefully if you like your date but just not ready to take things to the next level. It’s potentially a very awkward situation when your date knows you like them and your flirting has lead them to believe the night is leading to the bedroom and then you jump in a cab after last orders. The Third Date Rule is the stuff of legends and #epic fails. There’s two reasons that throw problems into the mix and it’s most likely our awareness of them that causes us trouble here:
1. The third date is expected to “set the tone” of the relationship.
You are more casual than the second date but it’s here where you really impress. No longer important are your wardrobe choices or your sporting activities, here is where you’re expected to show substance.
2. The third date is the first socially acceptable point at which you can have sex. Girls aren’t going to feel that they’re being too easy and men can approach it with more confidence.
This knowledge of the potential outcome of the third date can hang over the date like a looming black cloud. Questions such as, my place or theirs? Is my house in an acceptable state? What do we do when it comes to home time? Share a cab and then anxiously wait until the last point we can address the subject? Do I ask them to come in? Trust me, the best way to get through the third date is to not even entertain these questions/issues and approach it with an totally open mind. Let the date unfold naturally.
You can almost guarantee that in preparation for the third date we will have made ourselves “sex ready” just in case. Don’t even try to deny it. All’s that’s needed now are a few simple signifiers throughout the course of the date to make this run more smoothly and failing that, some careful strategy.
1. Flirt and make sure your left eye meets their right eye. Hold their gaze, smile and look for that flash of “we both know where this is going”. Your intuition will signal to you that you’re both on the same page. Make sure you start this from the beginning of the date.
2. Be tactile throughout the date. Do this very subtly though. Girls, touch his arm when you talk to him. Boys, place your hand in the small of her back whilst you guide her to her seat. Read the signals once you’ve made physical contact. If they’re looking awkward, ease off and try again at 45 minute intervals.
It’s really about allowing your date to get a sense of how you would behave whilst in a relationship and them getting comfortable with you. First time sex is closely connected with feelings of trust. Work on instilling feelings of trust. An easy way to blow it is to check out other people and not focus your attentions on your date.
What do you do if you like this person but you don’t want to have sex just yet? Don’t even bother getting into awkward conversation. A long sensual kiss at the end of the date is enough to demonstrate your desire to be physically intimate and follow that up with something along the lines of ‘Can’t wait for next time” (girls), “I’ve know a great restaurant/place to go/ bar etc that I’m going to take you to next week” (guys). Show intent to continue dating and tie it to something i.e. a plan.
Doesn’t seem so hard now does it? Let us know how you get on and we want to hear about your third date experiences good and bad so send them our way. Hope this helps Lloyd!
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The first date is an interview. You put your best foot forward and hope that you’ve conveyed the best version of yourself. The second date is certainly more relaxed but it’s definitely time to take things to the next level. This brings me untold amounts of stress as my first date conversations come so easily whereas on a second date I’m expected to impress to the same level whilst assuming a more casual air. Oh god. Keep calm. Where are we going to go? What topics are still off limits?
In such situations I find the best thing to do is to do some research (this usually means consulting my successful “dater” friends and the truly awful ones too – and then doing exactly the opposite of what they advise)…
- With second dates the focus should just be on each other. Resist temptation to invite your date to your local for drinks. Remove yourself from familiar surroundings and ensure they do the same. Getting to know each other without the pressure of the first date is key here. If you’re both somewhere that’s totally unrelated to you, you’ll find that nothing with colour your judgement. You’re also on an equal territory. We are all guilty of getting too comfortable/ too cocky in the local pub.
- Keep the conversation light but meaningful. Talk about travels, where you went to school. If you a play a sport or are training for a marathon, divulge! Recent studies have shown that people respond well to active lifestyles. One subject you should avoid…the ex. Trust me, no date wants to listen to your bitter rants. It will NEVER look good despite it being tempting to conjure the sympathy vote (also terrible).
A Load of Rubbish
- When someone requests a second date, play hard to get. Or if you’re going to request a second date wait ‘x’ amount of time. You don’t want to seem desperate!
This is ridiculous. If you want to see someone again why bother trying to force a delay for the sake of appearing aloof. If you want to see them again, you know what to do!
- Keep the act up. That’s what 3rd dates are for.
I would say the second date is so crucial to the progression of a relationship. You’ve passed the first round and now it’s good to show more of your personality. Your date is looking for something more substantial to what they saw first time round. Why risk denying yourself another opportunity? That said, leave strange quirks and bizarre tendencies for later down the line.
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There is something about Christmas that places us in an emotional frame of mind. The time we spend with family and friends can make even the most cynical of us go all gooey. One thing that some of us find hard about the holiday season, is that whilst our siblings are happily (or possibly unhappily) married or engaged, we have to face the fact that we’re not in relationships and no mum, I’ve not been seeing anyone since you know who…
Though perfectly content with the current state of affairs as far as the single life goes, we’re suddenly now forced to reflect on why we are apparently “alone”. Thank god it’s all over. Get me back to the city where I can go out with my friends and find love at the bottom of a champagne glass.
I had a friend who suffered the singleton’s holiday blues so badly, he resolved to hook up with a family friend – someone he’d never been interested in and thought it a good proposition because it was convenient. He’s not on his own here. I’ve heard other stories of people falling back on their safety options just because they can’t bear the idea of passing another Christmas as a single.
Whilst this type of behaviour is totally understandable, it’s not what we should be doing. Reflecting on the last year and everything that’s happened, it couldn’t have been better. I’m sure if you really think about it, I bet you had a load of fun on dates good and bad. Why should we not throw ourselves into the next year with the same attitude? New Year always brings with it new resolutions and whilst the ones that involve going to the gym more, quitting smoking etc might not last past the second week of January, we should resolve to keep enjoying dating, meeting new people and experiencing new things. At least when next Christmas rolls around, we’ll have a few good stories to go back home with.
Here’s to the New Year!